Having a dream is free for everyone. However, from my reflection, there are 2 barriers which ruining our dream :
Ourselves
Listening to people who said we can't
My life is like a boat and it never sail on the calm ocean. It keeps wavy, but I would not be a person who give up to the storm or the big waves. I keep going.
As I child, I was a rebel. At least in my mind. Born and raised in a strong patriarchy culture as Bataknese (you may read my previous writing here), my barriers were my parents. So that, once I was in college, I got my freedom to say: NO. Since then, nobody could force me to do anything which is not reasonable or out of my common sense.
Been in Papua for 5 years, I grasp the essence of life: Love in a humble life. Some things might happened out of my common sense, in the term of God's perspective. This is something that we could not predict. I learn to live in faith, "in the God's time". I become a more reflective person, I found me. I am blessed to have this understanding very early, before my 30s.
Then I come to the conclusion again, the greatest barriers for your growth are:
Yourself
Listening to people who said you can't
I felt bad for my little brother who was not allowed to choose his dream college, because of the circumstance. My parents were lacking in confidence of him. They ruined my brother's self-esteem. This is something that we could not overdo, since the result of the university exam has been published. Yes, my brother is accepted in a good national university, but it's not his dream college. He was crying on the phone when I called him at midnight. I have difficulties for sleeping this whole month, I do not know if this what what you called a 'sign.' I think my little brother felt terribly sorry about himself.
The Power to be able to Dream is Very Expensive
Having a dream is free, but to have that power to allow yourself to be able to dream and go for it, to pursue it, to give the best effort for that, it's coming from yourself. Nobody could replace you. It shall coming from you. Hundreds or thousands of people might said No. However, it's you who define yourself. Are you just like what these people said about you? Or are you the person you define who you are?
I just choose the second option. I define myself.
Last month, our book club reading Laskar Pelangi, or the Rainbow Troops, which is written by Andrea Hirata. I read Laskar Pelangi twice. The first was in Bahasa Indonesia, then I just finished the English version for my book club's. My first time reading this book when I was in college. I just enjoyed the story as a fiction based on real story, oh yeah. It was another adventure story about kids. However, in my second time reading this, I read this in a totally different perspective. I worked for 5 years in remote place, not the capital city of the province. Moreover, I met these bright beautiful children who had limited access for education not because of lacking in the facilities, but in their own mindset.
Lintang gave the Rainbow Troops courage to dream! Something that Ikal dan the other troops never dare to think that further. There are more possibilities for them out there, and they have people who believe in them: Ibu Mus, Pak Hafan, and Lintang!
How to Response when Somebody Sharing His/Her Dream with You?
Said thank you. It means that you are a very dear for that someone. If you heard his/her dream kinda like giving you to response by answering "Really??"; better you hold your tongue.
For my brother's case, I felt sorry about him, because I was away not in Jakarta when the family made decision. They just decided and reported the result to me. Just like the old days hahaha (this sarcasm btw). However, I told my brother that the power to be able to dream, this is a blessing where not everyone has it.
Not everyone encouraged enough to think that they are actually able to reach their dreams by effort and working hard on it. Not everyone brave enough to see themselves as helpless and they are not capable (yet) in way to reflect, and see what else I can do to make myself do better.
My parents are not blessed by this traits. They are very simple and practical. Living a permanent life, doing good, working hard, life is good enough, and that's it. I told my brother we could not blame on our parents but that's how they are.
What Would You Do and How is Your Plan?
Therefore, I asked my brother, what would you do and how is your plan? He told me that he would having the next's year university entrance test. I told him that he has the chance for a year preparing and working hard for that. I also shared my failures and the turning points which shaped me as the current me. Moreover, I told my brother, even for me, life is not ended as just like these days. I do not see myself graduated with a bachelor degree from library and information science as the end of me. I do also have my goals. It needs effort, and I am working on it.
Like what I believe, we shall be a role model to people we love. If I encouraged my brother to be a person who is brave to dream, then I should be a person who is willing to dream and surely make the efforts on it. I told my brother that he always has his brother and sisters, and me as the 'out of the box' sister to share his stories and worries with. I am glad to know at the end of our conversation he felt better, and we prayed. I told him, never feeling alone, because nowadays, God's answering people's prayers in various ways. God might be not talking to you directly but God's words could be delivered through other people.
Some people mentioned that 'luck' is the most important aspect in someone's success. Good for me, that I do not believe in luck. You might work hard, the effort was there, you might reach for your dream, or might be not. Not because you are not capable (after those all hardworking and labor), but we are limited in our perspective as human. God provides you with even better result. This 'secret' would be unfolded once then we would say, "Oh, that's why..." hahaha. But yes, it usually take a long time until we reach that reflective mode on.
I wish more children and people in the world have the same opportunity, to have that power to be able to dream. There is one quote that I really like,
“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it you will land among the stars.”
I am blessed to be lend books from my inspiring boss (Please do read my previous post). She just lend me other book, Grit : the power of passion and perseverance. The book is written by Angela Duckworth. You may watch her famous Youtube TedX video below:
If the previous book, Lean In pumped me with full spirit and strength; the Grit book put my brain on fire hahaha. The book is a research summary that has been done by Angela Duckworth and other psychologists about the psychology of achievement for years. If you really into "grit," I believe you are going to finish reading the book until the last page. Moreover, you would not stop, but reflect. First, you would realise your grit score and challenged yourself that you could done better from the current you.
Actually when my boss lend me this book, I was not really interested. Because I have seen Angela Duckworth's video on Youtube before. At that moment, I did agree with her: Grit defines success, even though it's not definite only because of grit alone. I am confident to tell myself, I have this grit in my life. Angela Duckworth just helped me to define this trait as the 'grit'. So then what? This was my first response when I read the first pages of the book.
However, after reading into the part III : Grit from the Outside In. It really helped me to see grit from outer perspective. How to initiate the grit for other people? Especially in my job as a librarian who work in school. Working alone as a grittier person is not enough. You should be supported by a grittier team that lead by a grittier leader.
I do not know whether my boss really aware about this. How I see this, why did she give me this book to read? I believe not every employee has offered to borrow my boss' books. This WHY keep bugging me. If I am not mistaken then, based on Lean In and the Grit Book, my boss is going to make a grittier teamwork! Perhaps she thought that I could be a part of that dream team.
Meanwhile, as for my personal vision, I am determined to shape my vision and grit into something realistic and measured. Including this revelation I just got this morning, I would pursue my graduate program not in library science. For years, I thought a postgraduate program in Library Science is my ultimate goal. I was wrong! I would tell you later once everything has confirmed. Meanwhile, I would find details of the program and save more money for that. I am really relieved to wake up this morning once I realised my old dream!
Thank you so much for God's blessing! My boss really destined to meet me, inspired, and challenged me with many new things. A self-development life to the fullest!
Meanwhile, I am going to copy here some quotes or paragraphs that I found interesting:
How Darwin Seeing Grit
"One biographer describes Darwin as someone who kept thinking about the same questions long after others would move on to different-and no doubt easier-problems:
The normal response to being puzzled about something is to say, "I'll think about this later," and then, in effect, forget about it. With Darwin, one feels that he deliberately did not engage in this kind of semi-willful forgetting. He kept all the questions alive at the back of his mind, ready to be retrieved when a relevant bit of data presented itself.
How Nietzsche Seeing Grit
"With everything perfect, Nietzsche wrote, "we do not ask how it came to be." Instead, "we rejoice in the present fact as though it came out of the ground by magic."
"No one can see in the work of the artist how it has become," Nietzsche said.
... "Our vanity, our self-love, promotes the cult of the genius," Nietzsche said.
"For if we think of genius as something magical, we are not obliged to compare ourselves and find ourselves lacking... To call someone 'divine' means: 'here there is no need to compete.'" ... Great things are accomplished by those "people whose thinking is active in one direction, who employ everything as material, who always zealously observe their own inner life and that of others, who perceive everywhere models and incentives, who never tire of combining together the means available to them.
And what about talent?
Nietzsche implored us to consider exemplars to be, above all else, craftsmen:
"Do not talk about giftedness, inborn talents! One can name great men of all kinds who were very little gifted. They acquired greatness, became 'geniuses' (as we put it)... They all possessed that seriousness of the efficient workman which first learns to construct the parts properly before it ventures to fashion a great whole; they allowed themselves time for it, because they took more pleasure in making the little, secondary things well than in the effect of a dazzling whole."
Talent is how quickly your skills improve when you invest effort. Achievement is what happens when you take your acquired skills and use them. Of course, your opportunities-for example, having a great coach or teacher-matter tremendously, too, and maybe more than anything about the individual. .. It doesn't address these outside forces, nor because it include luck. It's about the psychology of achievement, but because psychology isn't all that matters, it's incomplete.
... What this theory says is that when you consider individuals in identical circumstances, what each achieves depends on just two things, talent and effort. Talent-how fast we improve in skill-absolutely matters. But effort factors into the calculation twice, not once. Effort build skill. At the very same time, effort makes skill productive.
How Will Smith Seeing Grit
"The separation of talent and skill," Will Smith points out, "is one of the greatest misunderstood concepts for people who are trying to excel, who have dreams, who want to do things. Talent you have naturally. Skill is only developed by hours and hours and hours of beating on your craft."
Skill is not the same thing as achievement, either. Without effort, your talent is nothing more than your unmet potential. Without effort, your skill is nothing more than what you could have done but didn't. With effort, talent becomes skill, and, at the very same time, effort makes skill productive.
"Not necessarily. But skipping around from one kind of pursuit to another-from one skill set to an entirely different one-that's not what gritty people do."
"But what if I move around a lot and, while I'm doing that, I'm working incredibly hard?"
"Grit isn't just working incredibly hard. That's only part of it."
Pause.
"Why?"
"Well, for one thing, there are no shortcuts to excellence. Developing real expertise, figuring out really hard problems, it all takes time-longer than most people imagine. And then, you know, you've got to apply those skills and produce goods or services that are valuable to people. Rome wasn't built in a day."
He was listening, so I continued.
"And here's the really important thing. Grit is about working on something you care about so much that you're willing to stay loyal to it."
"It's doing what you love. I get that."
"Right, it's doing what you love, but not just falling in love-staying in love."
By his second year at Oxford, he figured out that journalism was even better fit: "Once I learned more about being journalist and how that could get me back to Africa, and how that actually would be fun, and I could write more creatively than I first imagined journalism was, then I was like, 'Screw it, this is what I'm going to do.' I set out a very deliberate path that was possible, because the journalism industry was very hierarchical, and it was clear how to get from A to B to C to D, et cetera.
Step A was writing for Oxford's student newspaper, Cherwell. Step B was a summer internship at a small paper in Wisconsin. Step C was the St. Petersburg Times in Florida on the Metro beat. Step D was the Los Angeles Times. Step E was the New York Times as a national correspondent in Atlanta. Step F was being sent overseas to cover war stories, and in 2006-just over a decade since he'd set himself the goal-he finally reached step G: becoming the New York Times' East Africa bureau chief.
... What Jeff's journey suggests instead is passion as a compass-that thing that takes you some time to build, tinker with, and finally get right, and that then guides you on your long and winding road to where, ultimately, you want to be.
Seattle Seahawks coach Pete Carroll puts it this way: "Do you have a life philosophy?"
For some of us, the question makes no sense. We might say: Well, I have a lot of things I'm pursuing. A lot of goals. A lot of projects. Which do you mean?
But others have no problem answering with conviction: This is what I want.
Everything becomes a bit clearer when you understand the level of the goal Pete is asking about. He's not asking about what you want to get done today, specifically, or even this year. He's asking what you're trying to get out of life. In grit terms, he's asking about your passion.
Pete's philosophy is : Do things better than they have ever been done before.
... grit grows as we figure out our life philosophy, learn to dust ourselves off after rejection and disappointment, and learn to tell the difference between low-level goals that should be abandoned quickly and higher-level goals that demand more tenacity. The maturation story is that we develop the capacity for long-term passion and perseverance as we get older.
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Grit is about holding the same top-level goal for a very long time.
Most of use become more conscientious, confident, caring, and calm with life experience. A lot of that change happens between the ages of twenty and forty, but, in fact, there is no epoch in the human life span where personality stops evolving. Collectively, these data demonstrate what personality psychologist now call "the maturity principle."
Likewise, in her interviews with "mega successful" people, journalist Hester Lacey has noticed that all of them demonstrate a striking desire to excel beyond their already remarkable level of expertise. An actor might say, 'I may never play a role perfectly, but I want to do it as well as I possibly can. And in very role, I want to bring something new. I want to develop.' A writer might say, 'I want every book I write be better than the last.'
"It is a persistent desire to do better," Hester explained. "It's the opposite of being complacent. But it's a positive state of mind not a negative one. It's not looking backward with dissatisfaction. It's looking forward and wanting to grow."
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This is not to say that all grit paragons are saints, but rather that most gritty people see their ultimate aim's as deeply connected to the word beyond themselves.
My claim here is that, for most people, purpose is a tremendously powerful source of motivation. There may be exceptions, but the rarity of these exceptions proves the rule.
In other words, a genuinely positive, altruistic purpose is not an absolute requirement of grit. And I have to admit that, yes, it's possible to be a gritty villain.
But, on the whole, I take the survey data I've gathered, and what paragons of grit tell me in person, at face value. So, while interest is crucial to sustaining passion over the long-term, so, too, is the desire to connect with and help others.
My guess is that, if you take a moment to reflect on the times in your life when you've really been at your best-when you've risen to the challenges before you, finding strength to do what might have seemed impossible-you'll realize that the goals you achieved were connected in some way, shape, or form to the benefit of other people.
In sum, there may be gritty villains in the world, but my research suggests there are many more gritty heroes.
Fortunate indeed are those who have a top-level goal so consequential to the world that it imbues everything they do, no matter how small or tedious, with significance. Consider the parable of the bricklayers:
There bricklayers are asked: "What are you doing?"
The first says, "I am laying bricks."
The second says, "I am building a church."
The third says, "I am building the house of God."
The first bricklayer has a job. The second has a career. The third has a calling.
Many of us would like to belike the third bricklayer, but instead identify with the first or second.
... workers identify themselves as having:
a job ("I view my jib as just as a necessity of life, much like breathing or sleeping"),
a career ("I view my job primarily as a stepping-stone to other jobs", or
a calling (My work is one of the most important things in my life").
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Those fortunate people who do see their work as a calling-as opposed to a job or a career-reliably say "my work makes the world a better place." And it's these people who seem most satisfied with their jobs and their lives overall. In one study, adults who felt their works was a calling missed at least a third fewer days of work than those with a job or a career.
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Amy's conclusion is that it's not that some kinds of occupations are necessarily jobs and others are careers and still others are callings. Instead, what matters is whether the person doing the work believes that laying down the next brick is just something that has to be done, or instead something that will lead to further personal success, or, finally, work that connects the individual to something far greater than the self.
I agree. How you see your work is more important than your job title.
And this means that you can go from job to career to calling-all without changing your occupation.
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"A calling is not some fully formed thing that you find," she tells advice seekers." It's much more dynamic. Whatever you do-whether you're a janitor or the CEO-you can continually look at what you do and ask how it connects to other people, how it connects to the bigger picture, how it can be an expression of your deepest values."
"In other words, a bricklayer who one day says, "I am laying bricks," might at some point become the bricklayer who recognises, "I am building the house of God."
David Yeager recommends reflecting on how the work you're already doing can make a positive contribution to society.
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Amy Wrzesniewski recommends thinking about how, in small but meaningful ways, you can change your current work to enhance its connection to your core values.
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"There have been so many times in my career when I wanted to pack it in, when I wanted to give up and do something easier," Rhonda told me. "But there was always someone who, in one way or another told me to keep going. I think everyone needs somebody like that. Don't you?"
It's indeed remarkable how many paragons of grit have told me with pride and awe, that their parents are their most admired and influential role models. And it's just as telling that so many paragons have, in one way or another, developed very similar interests to those of their parents. Clearly, these exemplars of grit grew up not just imitating their parents but also emulating them.
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If you want to bring forth grit in your child, first ask how much passion and perseverance you have for your own life goals. Then ask yourself, how likely it is that your approach to parenting encourages your child to emulate you. If the answer to the first question is "a great deal," and your answer to the second is "very likely," you are already parenting for grit.
Ron Ferguson is a Harvard economist who has collected more data comparing effective and ineffective teachers than anyone I know. In one recent study, Ron partnered with the Gates Foundation to study students and teachers in 1,892 different classrooms. He found that teachers who are demanding-whose students say of the, "My teacher accepts nothing less than our best effort," and "Students in this class behave the way my teacher wants them to"-produce measurable year-to-year gains in the academic skills of their students. Teachers who are supportive and respectful-whose students say, "My teacher seems to know if something is bothering me," and "My teacher wants us to share our thoughts"-enhance students' happiness, voluntary effort in class, and college aspirations.
In deciding between an immediately lucrative career and graduate school, Cody did some hard thinking about how he'd gotten to where he was. Next fall, he'll begin a PhD program in computer science at Stanford. Here's the first sentence from his application essay, "My mission is to utilise my passion for computer science and machine learning to benefit society at large, while serving as an example of success that will shape the future of our society."
So Cody Coleman did not have a psychologically wise mother, father, or grandparent. I wish he had. What he did have was a brother who said the right thing at the right time, an extraordinarily wise and wonderful high school math teacher, and an ecosystem of other teachers, mentors, and fellow students who collectively showed him what's possible and helped him to get there.
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A local radio station recently interviewed Cody. Toward the end of the conversation, Cody was asked what he had to say to listeners struggling to overcome similar life circumstances. "Stay positive," Cody said, "Go past those negative beliefs in what's possible and impossible and just give it a try."
Cody had these final words: "You don't need to be a parent to make a difference in someone's life. If you just care about them and get to know what's going on, you can make an impact. Try to understand what's going on in their life and help them through that. That's something I experienced firsthand. It made the difference.
"My sense, from being in admissions for over forty years, "Bill concluded, "is that most people are born with tremendous potential. The real question is whether they're encouraged to employ their good old-fashioned hard work and their grit, if you will, to its maximum. In the end, those are the people who seem to be the most successful.
Geoff sat forward and put his hands together like he was about to pray. "I'll tell you straight. I'm a father of four. I've watched many many kids who were not my own grow up. I may not have the random assignment, double-blind studies to prove it, but I can tell you what poor kids need. They need all the things you and I give to our own children. What poor kids need is a lot. But you can sum it up by saying that what they need is a decent childhood."
About a year later, Geoff gave a TED talk, and I was luck enough to be in the audience. Much of what Harlem Children's Zone did, Canada explained, was based on rock-solid scientific evidence-preschool education, for instance, and summer enrichment activities. But, there is one thing his program provided without sufficient scientific evidence to justify the expense : extracurricular activities.
"You know why?" he asked. "Because I actually like kids."
The audience laughed, and he said it again: "I actually like kids."
For many of us, the companies we work for are an important cultural force in our lives. For instance, growing up, my dad liked to refer to himself as a DuPonter. All the pencils in our house were company issued, embossed with phrase like Safety First, and my dad would light up every time a DuPont commercial came on television, sometimes even chiming in with the voice over. "Better things for better living." I think my dad only met the CEO of DuPont a handful of times, but he'd tell stories of his good judgement the way you might speak of a family war hero.
How do you know you're part of a culture that, in a very real sense, has become part of you? When you adopt a culture, you make a categorical allegiance to that in-group. You're not "sort of" a Seahawk or "sort of" a West Pointer. You either are or you aren't. You're in the group, or out of it. You can use a noun, not just just an adjective or a verb, to describe your commitment. So much depends, as it turns out, on which in-group you commit to.
The bottom line on culture and grit is: If you want to be grittier, find a gritty culture and join it. If you're a leader, and you want the people in your organisation to be grittier, create a gritty culture.
Okay, If you visited my page lately, you will realise that I rarely write something in this blog. My last post was on November, and because it was really matter. I attended a very meaningful workshop from the school. We had a very inspiring person came as our resource speaker, and you the ones who knew me very well; I would not sit and be quiet seeing a terrific person like that in front of me!
I RARELY meeting a resource speaker in person once he/she completed the speech. It because I RARELY feel if the materials given is that special or essential. However, this person is different! I was in Papua for 5 years, and had worked in this school for 2 years, I NEVER meet anyone who has that same spirit just like our resource speaker has. I do not talk about spirit in ghostly matter. This is the genuine spirit, a person who works with passion, really does what he/she say, who is brave answering challenge, and ready to take a risk. Not everyone really do what they said, not everyone willing to take a risk to put themselves to cover up their subordinates. But this resource speaker is d-i-f-f-e-r-e-n-t.
Therefore, I met her in person and asked her opinion about what I did in my library session and really motivated to ask her to have a visit to our library. However, she was very busy to taking care all the requests and failed to come visiting our library. I was disappointed. For people who know me, I am a very expressive person, and everything in my mind and my heart would be reflected on my face. Our resource speaker really understood my inquiry was real, and I really meant it.
I was doing this whole thing without knowing that she would be our 2nd rank highest boss in our school year, hahahaha!
Being Her Fans
Since beginning I am her big fans, and really excited to have her returned to our school. Again, this excitement can't be hidden on my face hahaha. When we had the employees' first met up in the school hall, she nodded and recalled my name in front of other employees, as a sign that she knew me. I thought I left a positive image on her mind.
Then, whenever I meet her, I am not like other employees who are afraid even just to say hi to her. Since beginning I am super duper friendly! I am her biggest fans here, remember? I even can share lunch together with her, having chit chat, and laughing loudly in front of her. I thought a lot of employees were surprised to see how relaxed I was in one of our lunch time. Because what I remember about her is, I am truly her fans, and I am really HAPPY having her here! Hahahaha.. I think highly of her as my boss but I am her biggest fans. Can you imagine, let's say, you are an Economic major graduate and you have Ibu Sri Mulyani as your boss. It feels amazing right?
You know for certain people, you may only rarely meet them, once or twice in a life time, and my new boss is just like that. I am confident to say this because I have spent my life time (30 years old) and RARELY meeting people that really affect me this much. She is different!
My coolest boss then lend me her book, and she said, sometimes we would be inspired to be a leader when we meet someone who inspired us! Just like how she described when she met her former school principal. Definitely, I would finish reading the book she lend me in this Independence Day's holiday! And the book is the picture whom I share with you in this post, Lean In : Women, Work, and the Will to Lead written by Sheryl Sandberg.
I hope to meeting my boss again, she could be my mentor and can guide me where and how I explore more of my talents and interests.
Have I told you I've moved to another job last December 2012? This time I'm working in my expertise : records management. More 'bonuses' for this job : I move to Surabaya city, kost for the first time in my life, would travel a lot throughout Indonesia, and salary raise up. Plus plus bonus: somehow I got bonus (literally it was a bonus) 1 full month salary in December 2012, hahahahaha. What a great gift for christmas and new year 2013.
I accepted this opportunity and left my just 2 months working contract in relocation services company at Jakarta. People said I'm crazy to left my permanent status since my working project in Surabaya is only for 6 months. I believe I have to take this opportunity since it would enrich my life. And yes, working here really enrich me.
I am working in well established company which have good working flow, system approval, and everything under control. I've been working in petroleum company before and they also have very good IT system but I worked as librarian at that time. So I was not really involved throughout the IT System. Here in my current company, I totally involved moreover I'm working in Information Services Department.
I supervised for our records warehouse in Pandaan, Malang for three months and prepared for RIM (Records and Information Management) training program, contacted our area offices in Jawa Tengah, Kalimantan, and Sumatera. There are only 2 persons traveling around Indonesia for this program, Ibu Ayu and me. FYI Ibu Ayu is a very cool person! She is quite old but her smartness, motivation, and passion for working is superb!! Moreover she is very nice and caring about others. Never met anyone like her, and I hope in my future time I could be someone that could do minimum as good as her. Respect to Ibu Ayu.
So, my area offices target are :
Sampit (8-9 March 2013)
Pontianak (3-4 April 2013)
Muara Bungo (5-6 April 2013)
Pangkal Pinang (8-9 April 2013)
Surakarta (12-13 April 2013)
Lahat (17-18 April 2013)
Pati (26-27 April 2013)
Bukit Tinggi (29 April - 1 May 2013)
Batam (3-4 May 2013)
Padang (5-8 May 2013)
10 area offices should be visited in 2 months. So could you imagine how is my life fly through from one airport to another airport? Sometimes I have to catch first flight, or have to continue the transportation from airport by road trip in hours to my area office destination, or sometimes there is no other hotel option where the best and only hotel is below three stars standard hotel.
Padang would be my last visit in next week. After that I have to follow up several things-result after the training given before my contract ended at 31 May 2013.
I am really grateful for this opportunity given by God and here my tips for you: sometimes you know what the best thing for you without listen to other person negative comments. My make your own decision whatever the result is, you are sincerely could accept it whether positive or negative. If it's a positive result you'll really grateful not regret to take the decision. If it's a negative result at least you would not blame it to others. We learn to be responsible and would use it as experience to face problem in the future.
Just in my previous post I've told you that I'm working fuck*ng hard in my recent office now.
Please look over to image attached beside :O
That is my overtime approval form for June 2012. My working hours from 6.00-18.00 but the fact, I'm still working after 18.00. This form is just made today, and you could see that in a week, how many hours I've spent at office. There are still 6 working days before cutting day at 25th.
Those are days when I was working in HR team. My office perhaps asking what the h*ll am I doing until this kind of late. So sorry but I have so much things to do and my boss keeps give so much works to do even nearby the end time of working. There is no way to escape and I also a person that hate to delay any task given. So here is the result.
I was tired and I hope I could get my me time for myself to take a rest, to socialize, even to have a spare time with my family.
Well, another post about my job circumstances. Please don't be bored reading my blog ya.
So here's what happened...
One of my task in the office is maintain our administration system. I manage how to let all employee could work better, efficiently within all facilities provided by our office. It means paperwork's to be filled up, administration form to do work outside office, travel request, or permission to take taxi voucher. Those are just a little amount of forms I've typed here. In fact we have 26 forms and could be added more by my boss request-ready to assist our employee activities.
Then here is the problem: too many forms, too much writings, and so hurry in time = means disaster and everybody seems allergic to fill up the forms. But hey guys those tasks are exist and that's how our office guidance running. People tried to take it easy but in fact they are complaining behind me and fussed it up. Some people just dislike the forms and took it personally to dislike me too. I just figured it out lately.
Somehow, the ambiance in the workstation was not like last month. There's no laugh, no jokes, no chit chat, no more small conversation with me even though we are in the same workstation. I thought the ambiance different because they had deadline got run for. But after our office karaoke night yesterday-Ibu Ani farewell party (I'll write later about her) one of the employee complained about the forms and how dizzy their head to fill up every form for their activities. WHAM!! A hammer nailed my head!! I never know they are complaining about it and even talked about it behind me. I was really shocked and tried to explain briefly why we must filled out the form. But I think there's no use to explain it before they got their own results for not fill up the forms.
So what do you think could be happened if you not fill up the forms? All the management could be in chaos. If you work overtime and don't fill up the form you would not get your overtime working fee. If you have meeting to meet clients outside the office and don't fill up the form you would be in absence in working. If you don't fill up the form for the transport request, you couldn't use taxi voucher or office car and that means you have to use your own money for job transportation purpose and so on.
So when you hate the system which actually could help you in your own activities, I think it is not appropriate if you dislike me, avoid to have conversation with me. Just face the management, say your complaints to them and not to blame everything to me. My life principle to face people who avoid me oddly, as always: I DON'T GIVE A SHIT! It's your own loss to avoid conversation with me, as if I couldn't life without you. Hell yeah, I still have a lot of friends out there and as long I'm done with my job, that's all right.
I'm working now in different path of my education. As an administration staff, I have new challenge to be more details in everything, to memorize everything well, acurate in every task I'm doing. It needed high responsive and awarenees in my task and e-mail correspondence.
It's a high risky job for my organization growth. Because every correspondence, flight booking ticket, arrange meeting, even in approaching new candidate for some jobs available in our office are throughout me. The problem is my super big boss is not a royal person. He would reduce as much as he could in employee wages. The other problem is my HR Boss use her connection to approach new employee from her networking and very generous for them.
So, when I saw the lack of experience employee got higher salary offer bigger than me, do you know how I feel? I feel dissapoint! I'm work fuck*n hard, wake up at 6.30 am, go to office at 7.15 am, arrive at office far away from my house at 9.00 am, eat my lunch only for 30 minutes, back from office always above 8 pm, arrive at home very late, have no time for myself, my social life, and no more private time for me, even for reading or open facebook on PC at home. And I got salary 1,5 mio less than the lack of experience employee, not even reach his bachelor degree yet, and it seems he is not smart also, and lazy.
After my 3 months of probation, I'll ask for higher salary. If the management could NOT give it, there is no doubt after finish my working contract here I would leave! If your office couldn't value your job, and they seem close their eyes to see your professional work, and your fuck*n hard effort, just my two cents: GO AWAY FROM THAT H*LL as fast as you could.
Hi readers it's a very long time no see and no write in this blog. Let you know that since 1st December 2011, I just moved out from my second place for working to my third place. Before I tell you about my third place for working, let me give a little bit introduce about this my second place.
My second place for working is an oil and gas company where the salary rate is higher from average company. Lets say the medium level contract workers there have a same salary rate with a manager in other company (a non oil and gas company). So lets say the biggest temptation for working in this place is money.
After working for an apprentice program in this company, I realize that salary is not everything. I do acknowledge that we need money for living but for my own standard, I need a place where I can feel safe about my working status and future. I worried about my future where the company couldn't give any statement or even promise about that. So when my 6 months apprentice program is ended-and extended for 3 months working contract, I decide not to ask my boss about my renewal contract, and looked for another job 1 month before it is ended.
Honestly, I do love working there, the workers are friendly and they are seemed enjoying their work (and the paycheck also). But like I said before, I think it's not enough for me (not the amount of money but the future of my working status). More problems, that my core competency, Library and Information Science--where I work there as a librarian is not the main interest of an oil and gas company. So, just my brief sight or supertitious alert that my division, the library could get erased easily from the company structure in the future.
So many worries and it keeps drive me to move out from the company as soon as possible. And in the middle of my task in library last november, somehow I can manage my time to attend some interviews for new job, and voila I just accepted in a new place, a new different kind of job, and this time it's not a librarian. I will tell more about this new job in future posts. But in this meantime, let me say thank you very much for my second place for working.... I learned a lot, to work hard in discipline, could manage my time finish the tasks before deadline, makes me get usual to wake up early in morning (the company working hours is from 7 am to 4 pm)--before I NEVER wake up at 5 am, and of course for other benefits such as the trips go outside Jakarta for meetings and farewell party. Gonna miss this place but yeah, I have to move on looking for more opportunities to keep myself develop. Good bye and thank you. See you somewhere sometime.
Before, I have made a post in my multiply blog about my so so life. Because of my theses, I always get scared and not brave enough to face anything new opportunities. I rejected to apply job offers, to take an internship, or to have fun travelling for days. But I still can't take it if I have to face only theses for one term. I thought it will feel like hell if I'm only come outside from house only for research and consultation with lecture. So that I took a Spanish language class at my campus. It's pretty easy and the lecture was great at teaching. I've taken Spanish language class for 2 terms already. Even in my last term I also took a free Portuguese language class in their embassy at Menteng. It was free, and became a reunion with my old friend Syenni also I met new interesting classmates there. Other good point is I became familiar with Menteng area and the roads so that it's pretty easy for me to come home from my work today. I even use the shortcut way HAHAHA.
I admit, took 2 language classes which taken most of my time in a week was very wasteful. I don't have much time for theses. Now, I don't take any classes and even get brave enough to apply some job/internship application. My first application in a flight company was rejected. But last week I got offered for a job-a flexible one in a national commission nearby Manggarai area. The work situation is GREAT, SUPER, very very very friendly, I get lunch there, the time is flexible (minimum 3 workdays in a week), and the payment is pretty good hihihi :)
Surprised to myself, I work very diligent. I'm able to get work on time (before I frequently come late at class), work hard from 9am to 12pm, and continue work again from 1pm to 4 pm. It's fascinating. I don't feel tired even I feel energetic and want to finish my job as soon as possible. Because I realize as soon I finish my job, I can concentrate again on my theses on 100% concentration. One more thing, the food is delicious, and I can eat rice as much as I can hihihi. So I can say, nutrition is guaranteed there, if I need a cup of tea or coffee I'm free to make one for myself. This is my day 3 at work, but I have to come to work again tomorrow because there will be an online catalog training in office. Still I'm happy and enjoy it a lot. Praise the God :))
"Ecclesiastes 3: 3 He has made everything right in its time; but he has made their hearts without knowledge, so that man is unable to see the works of God, from the first to the last."
